tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16835494.post2140934267185907959..comments2023-09-23T04:52:09.661-07:00Comments on Learning Lab: More Tips on Presentation: Don't Rely on Your ContentAnnette Kramer, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02085789930912143549noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16835494.post-17735820195243136132009-08-25T03:13:58.965-07:002009-08-25T03:13:58.965-07:00Hi Matt,
"Looking away in a deliberate manne...Hi Matt,<br /><br />"Looking away in a deliberate manner", in this case, means taking your gaze from someone else's eyes placing it -- with focus -- elsewhere. <br /><br />The key is focus. In conversation, you focus on the gaze of the person to whom you speak. When you can't hold it anymore, you focus with equal force on something else. Looking down works well -- or looking up. <br /><br />Focus your gaze in the away-position until you're comfortable to hold the other person's gaze again.<br /><br />Repeat as necessary.<br /><br />The effect is this: rather than allowing your eyes to wander away from someone else's -- giving the impression of backing down, being bored, or even looking embarrassed -- there's a sense that you've made the move to think, remember, or process information.<br /><br />Why? Your gaze is pulled toward something. It's not pulled away.<br /><br />It takes practice so that you can learn to find something on which to focus when not looking at the other person. So practice. <br /><br />The behavior will not only give your conversation partner a sense of being heard, it will also give you a feeling of control. And that will allow you to be more present in the conversation as it happens.<br />AnnetteAnnette Kramer, PhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02085789930912143549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16835494.post-17487198984968562002009-08-25T02:41:32.614-07:002009-08-25T02:41:32.614-07:00Holding someone's gaze, yes, I've found th...Holding someone's gaze, yes, I've found that can be very uncomfortable too.<br /><br />Can you explain a little better what you mean by "look away in a deliberate manner"? I'm not really clear how to communicate deliberateness in such a gesture since it's, as much as anything else, the interpretation of the receiver.<br /><br />mMatt Mowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09383732281576833857noreply@blogger.com